What you have put I am going through now! According to 1 sister and I think the other thinks the same, it's me that has upped sticks and left the family, without a care in the world for mum and dad, me that has cut the ties, me that's the hard person.
This from a sister that gets a nose bleed if she travels any more than arms length from her house, she lives probably an 8 min drive from my parents the other a 2 minute walk to the next street.
So we have decided that we won't do presents and the way things are at the moment I'd be surprised if we did cards or even communicated again. So sad.