And leaving adult child behind advice

[Corinne14470]

If we are successful, my eldest who is 25 will be devastated. She doesn't like change and due to her personal situation she would not be joining me indefinitely. Since 3 she was with me joint custody and at times made the choice to live with her walkover dad! I know I will be made to feel guilt ffrom her, excluding the guilt I will actually feel anyway. Has anyone else emigrated with adult children in uk?

[elfie]

If we are successful, my eldest who is 25 will be devastated. She doesn't like change and due to her personal situation she would not be joining me indefinitely. Since 3 she was with me joint custody and at times made the choice to live with her walkover dad! I know I will be made to feel guilt ffrom her, excluding the guilt I will actually feel anyway. Has anyone else emigrated with adult children in uk?

Hi
My husband and I are leaving my 25 yr old son behind. He does not like change and does not wish to come with us [his choice]. I will feel guilt of leaving him behind but he has his life choices and we have ours at the end of the day he is an adult. He may regret his choice then again he may not, either way its hard for us and for him. But he may change his mind ...........................................

[ali]

It must be very hard for you both, but I guess that even if you remained in the UK your older children will at some stage fly the nest and may have even wanted to live abroad themselves. Won't stop you missing them though and hopefully they'll be able to visit regularly.

[Give me a break!]

You have to carry on with your lives because who knows whats around the corner. Like Ali says you could stay in the UK for their sake, but in 12 months time they might decide to travel or marry someone from a different country and emigrate themselves. Just thinks you'll have all thouse lovely holidays when you can fly them over and "work on them!"

[Corinne14470]

Thank you guys - I need to go back to this when I have a shaky moment. She doesn't live with me and has a nearly 2 year old son too so a Grandson to leave too :-( But I also remember her saying to me one day that a psychic (!) and said she will one day live in another country and I remember thinking 'good for you'. Anyway, first hurdles to get through - assess Husbands engineering skills and hope he gets an 8 in each of IELTS next month - scary...

[Gollywobbler]

If we are successful, my eldest who is 25 will be devastated. She doesn't like change and due to her personal situation she would not be joining me indefinitely. Since 3 she was with me joint custody and at times made the choice to live with her walkover dad! I know I will be made to feel guilt ffrom her, excluding the guilt I will actually feel anyway. Has anyone else emigrated with adult children in uk?

Hi Corinne

I think that your situation is the hardest that anyone can face. I've never done what you are considering because I don't even have any children (and I'm now 55, so it would be a bit late to start!)

Presumably your 25 year old daughter would not be eligible for a Remaining Relative visa because her father does not live in Australia?

http://www.immi.gov.au/migrants/family/115/

Does she have any skills that would enable her to join you later on?

If not, it seems that your daughter has a child who would probably prevent the possibility of a Working Holiday visa for her?

http://www.immi.gov.au/visitors/working-holiday/

You say that your daughter would hate you if you rock off to Australia. Kids say a lot of things in the heat of the moment that they don't actually mean - I should know, I've done that enough times myself!

What is your daughter's situation, please? Is she still involved with the father of her child? I ask because most Aussie men do not have much going for them, imho, but they do possess the thing called an Australian Passport and some of them don't also come with baggage such as a marriage certificate or any other inconvenience.

Now. I'm a lawyer by trade - not a trade known for its sentimentality, it must be said. If we can get your daughter out to Oz for long enough for her to meet a Suitable Aussie Bloke then:

http://www.immi.gov.au/migrants/fami...er-outside.htm

Some of the Blokes are quite biddable. My sister is married to an Aussie, whose Aussie father has been divorced twice. Old Eric is not long for the planet - he must be at least 80 and I've spent several years trying to find a wannabe immigrant who wants to pay me for an introduction to Eric. I've met him - Godzilla is definitely worse.

I only half-jest, Corinne. If you are determined enough (and so is your daughter) then there probably are Ways & Means.

Cheers

Gill