CarolineD82

Hi, just to say I got my results from EOR today...12 weeks it has taken!! To get no change of result. I guess it doesn't matter now as I have had a change of heart and not migrating after all...but the £60 fee back would have been nice haha. Caroline.

Thanks Rupert for your reply. I believe you are right in what you say. I will certainly ensure that my children have a wonderful life no matter where we are in the world Caroline

Very stormy- thanks for your honest and informative reply. CookieC- thank you also, you are right. I have woken this morning feeling content that I'm making the right decision for me and my family to stay in England for now at least. I feel a weight has been lifted off my shoulders :-) Oz seemed like a perfect ideal lifestyle...but my parents mean more to me right now and as long as my children are loved and well provided for, they should have a happy life here. I think my mum will cry with relief when I tell her! Thanks to all who has replied, I've had a free counselling session lol.I wish everyone every success who is planning the big move. I'm sure it is an amazing way of life, just not for me Caroline x x

Thank you so much x

Perth because my husband feels that's an ideal place for him to prosper in his work. He has a good job now but he works away from home a lot, he's in Quatar now. He is very ambitious at work...which concerns me even more. He originally said he'd get an opportunity to have more time with family, but then talks of FIFO work. I don't want to be on my own out there with 2young children as we know no one. It's okay when he's away in England as have good support from both our parents. I think after some real hard reality checks today I am swaying more to stay in England, for the time being at least. I have also thought about maybe relocating somewhere more south maybe in a few years. Thanks for your thoughts I really do appreciate all the advice, Caroline x

Hi Tara, you have spoken of my feelings also. I too am from a small town with limited opportunities. I want a better life for my children. I just feel split in 2 over leaving my parents. But I know they would come to see us every year. The thoughts of "if you don't try you'll never know" are at the forefront of my mind, but my heart sinks at the thought of leaving them behind. It's such a tough decision. You have certainly helped me woth your reply in hearing I'm not alone thanks x

Thanks Levi. Yes, I think you're right to be honest with him in how confused I feel. I will sit tight & await the IELTS result.

Best wishes in finding a job. And hope that when you do manage to re-sit the exam you get the band you need.

Thanks for your reply. I think if I had support from OH & reassurance that we could come home after a few years or so I think is be happy to give oz a good try. Who knows, I may love the life and want to stay indefinitely. But I admire his honesty in being upfront that If we go for this, it has to be for good. Good luck to you and your family.

Hi all, I'm still waiting to pass my IELTS, so, being a nurse have been unable to begin the visa process. I made the decision at the beginning of this year that I would give emigrating a chance (as my husband has wanted to for years). However, over the past couple of weeks I've been feeling extremely panicky and questioning my decision. I am very close to my family and know I'd be breaking their hearts to move our 2young children to the other side of the world. But they are being very supportive of our decision. I am literally changing my mind every day. Most mornings I wake up positive about an exciting adventure, but by afternoon I'm getting upset and really don't feel I can do it. I have spoken at length with my husband. He originally was happy to go over for a few years and see what happens. If I didn't settle after a few years, we would return as a family. However, now he tells me he will probably struggle to leave that life if he and the kids settle and it's just my homesickness that brings us home. He feels our relationship would suffer. Also, the money we would loose in relocating again he may resent. He's just being honest so I appreciate that. But I now feel such a huge pressure. He has said his family means more than his dream, so if I want to stay, he can accept that. We can move on here and upgrade our home with the money we have been saving for emigration. I told him a few days ago that I want to stay. He has accepted it and we have decided to put our house on the market. But my head and heart is in pieces. I keep changing my mind, but haven't told my hubby as don't to keep getting his hopes up to keep letting him down. I don't know what I'm to gain by posting this, but would be nice to hear any advice as I'm sure there have been others who have felt like this. What did you do? ? Caroline

sorry to hear that Levi. I'm still awaiting my enquiry result. It's been over 10 weeks wait now...very frustrating! I've rang twice only to get the same response- there's a back log from the summer as its their busiest time so ill get it when it's done basically. They didn't say that before taking my £60 fee though! Caroline.

Hey, Really sorry that you missed out by half a mark. I feel your pain- it's so disappointing! On a positive note well done to you on your other marks, you did very well overall. Good luck with the remark. I sent my application along with £60 but am not holding my breath! Good luck to you again and please let us know how it goes, Caroline.

How exciting!! Good luck to you x

Hi,I too am at early stages. We hope to be in perth in 18-24 months. We have to children- 3 year old boy and 19 month old girl. My in laws are very supportive are happy that we are going. They love us but wish they'd emigrated when they were younger so think we are doing the right thing. They are both super practical people, not over emotional. My parents however are extremely emotional, especially my mum. They are trying their very best to be supportive but I know I'm breaking their hearts. My son and my dad have an amazing and special bond. They absolutely adore each other. Today mum said to me "how can you break them apart? They'll be lost without each other". She didn't mean to upset me (and I didn't show her it bothered me I just changed the subject) but its hard to hear. I know they'll miss each other dearly, but I also know that they'll be ok. On the up side, my parents will definitely visit yearly and I'm sure have wonderful quality times. It's a hard decision but I know we will regret not giving a life in Oz ago. If it doesn't work out, we will return, and I know 2 people who probably hope that will happen! Caroline.

Hi Azim, thanks for your reply. I've decided to appeal. Its good to hear stories from people that results have been changed. If I'm not successful, ill resit and hopefully pass next time. Caroline