English Rose Posted May 2, 2014 Report Share Posted May 2, 2014 Hi all, i wrote on here a while back saying we used to live in Perth been back in the Uk 18months now thinking of going back being ping pong poms so to speak. Well my husband has been head hunted and offered a job with sponsorship. He explained to them we need to sell our house before coming and they were really understanding and said its fine for how ever long it takes. My issue now is, it is real again. We told our parents again and they were as well as could be expected, pretty understanding actually. I said I can only deal with it if I do not think it is for life, more of a two year adventure. As I feel so guilty taking our young children away from them. i love my house here, would not want any other house in the UK as I love this house so much,but is it enough to stay? I suppose I am just very scared of being lonely again and it not working again. I just wanted to get it off my chest. Thanks for understanding and reading. Xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beandownunder Posted May 2, 2014 Report Share Posted May 2, 2014 congratulations on the job offer, you are in the fortunate position lots of us would love to be in! good luck with the decision making :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocolevi Posted May 2, 2014 Report Share Posted May 2, 2014 I can understand what your saying but at the end of the day it's just bricks, you've got a wonderful opportunity that not many people get, go just for a couple of years get the children settled and then see how you feel. At the end of the day you have to do what's right for you and your family x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted May 2, 2014 Report Share Posted May 2, 2014 It's just bricks and mortar; after all a home is what you make it and is only your home because it's filled with your family and love for them...and that's coming from someone who gets very attached to their home! The last 4 months, we have as my 7 year old keeps reminding me, been living like hobos! We've lived in temporary holiday let accommodation, house sat for an aunt, bounced around the country visiting friends and family and spent 2 weeks in hotels! But I know once we settle and our sentimental possessions are unloaded from our container, it will feel like home no matter where we live Of course, if you don't feel ready to sell you could always rent your home; although that may be equally/ more difficult! Good luck whatever you decide x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
English Rose Posted May 2, 2014 Author Report Share Posted May 2, 2014 Thanks all for your comments, just probably needed a bit of reassurance. I am not ungrateful for the opportunity we are truly grateful but I guess scared. We have been here before and it didn't work, keep questioning why it didn't. But have a pull towards trying it again. My husband is also very up in the air. One day its yes the next day its not sure. We had our house valued and as of next week it's all system go. Be nice to maybe meet with some of you when we arrive if anyone is in the same boat. Thanks again. Xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Akasully2 Posted May 2, 2014 Report Share Posted May 2, 2014 Hi. I went through a stage when I said it wasn't forever and would only say it was for two years or so. This was my get out clause that meant I didn't feel bad about taking the boys away from their grandparents. Over the years that changed and I finally got my head round it possibly being permanent. I still can't say it will be permanent for sure, just need to give it our best shot and try the life that is calling to us. If it doesn't work out at least we won't be living with regret that eats away at us. I think you need to ask yourself why exactly it didn't work out last time. You say you were lonely. Why? What would you do differently this time to make sure this doesn't happen again? Did you have children then? Toddler groups would be a great way of making friends. As for the house, if you can afford to keep it then just rent it out. That way you will have your safety net in place. All the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ali Posted May 2, 2014 Report Share Posted May 2, 2014 As it's a sponsored visa, I'm assuming it's a temporary one, so your mind set of it being a two year adventure is a good one - have you considered renting out your house instead, that way when the adventure ends you still have somewhere to call home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fifi69 Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Why do you need to sell your house straight away? Your going to be earning from the start, why not just rent here for 6 months/1 year, get your deposit together, or go for a low start up mortgage and buy when your rental is up. Hence keeping your UK home. Then in a couple of years you can reevaluate the situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verystormy Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I agree with Ali. Rent the house out and agree with your husband to review your situation in 2 years. If you are settled then, then sell Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
English Rose Posted May 3, 2014 Author Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 I was lonely because I was pregnant with my second child whom I had out there, my first wasn't at school as she was 3. Both my husbands Nans passed away whilst we were there whom he was very close to one of them, and when my daughter was born she was poorly and we ended up in the children's hospital in the city for four days when she was three weeks old. We were on our own and realised this, and I guess we bailed too quick in a nutshell! I did go to a playgroup and met a couple of friends who I am still friends with on facebook which is great. I saw them from time to time, but we have a lot of friends here so I think I just felt emotionally lonely whilst my husband was at work. I would do things alot differently now. My daughter would be at school for one, I would join a group with my other child who will be two. I would be doing the school run, I would also look at working one day a week or something ideally in a florist shop as I am a junior florist which I wasn't back then, I used to work as an office as an office manager here. I would do anything, join groups to try make friends for myself and my family. I wouldn't take things for granted I suppose of what I have here. With regards to my house. I adore my house it is my dream home, it's a five bedroom detached and has very distinctive features and i wouldn't even know if this type of house would rent. I suppose I will worry its not looked after and may cause more hassle if something goes wrong as you are not there. I could look into It with a company it wouldn't hurt to ask. Thankyou for your advise, this site has really really helped me I cannot tell you ow much, knowing people understand your emotions you a going through. As my friends and family are lovely but just do not understand. Jo xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ali Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 It sounds like you went through the mill a bit when you were last here Jo, no wonder you felt isolated. I can empathise with that as it was one of the things I felt newly arrived, we didn't know a soul here in WA when we arrived and I certainly felt the lack of friends initially - but thankfully that's all I had to contend with. Glad that we can be of some support to you - it is for me what the site does best. Cyber hugs xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
English Rose Posted May 3, 2014 Author Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 It sounds like you went through the mill a bit when you were last here Jo, no wonder you felt isolated. I can empathise with that as it was one of the things I felt newly arrived, we didn't know a soul here in WA when we arrived and I certainly felt the lack of friends initially - but thankfully that's all I had to contend with. Glad that we can be of some support to you - it is for me what the site does best. Cyber hugs xxx Thankyou Ali, I used to live in Riverton, that's near Leeming isn't it? I can't remember?! Yes we sure did but you have to get on with things thats life and look at the positives. It was great and lovely majority of the time just hard other times, I just have to think about now and what a great opportunity we have been fortunate to have again. I know we are lucky and extremely grateful. Xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ali Posted May 3, 2014 Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Thankyou Ali, I used to live in Riverton, that's near Leeming isn't it? I can't remember?! Yes we sure did but you have to get on with things thats life and look at the positives. It was great and lovely majority of the time just hard other times, I just have to think about now and what a great opportunity we have been fortunate to have again. I know we are lucky and extremely grateful. Xx Yes Riverton not far from us at all - making friends made a massive difference to me (rather than hubby), we are probably now more socially active and have a closer friendship group than we ever had before, it does take time to develop though (which is hard if you're feeling lonely(, Are you heading to the same area? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
English Rose Posted May 3, 2014 Author Report Share Posted May 3, 2014 Yes Riverton not far from us at all - making friends made a massive difference to me (rather than hubby), we are probably now more socially active and have a closer friendship group than we ever had before, it does take time to develop though (which is hard if you're feeling lonely(, Are you heading to the same area? Hi, not sure to be honest my husband will be working in the city, the three friends I did make live in Willeton. I didn't know whether to try somewhere else rather then go back to where we was. I will probably ask for advise off here as I also need to think of a good school for my 6year old daughter. I am mor determined this time round. Xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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