Lou8670 Posted June 14, 2014 Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 We've been here a month and my eldest is struggling with homesickness. Does anyone have any advice to offer? He started school pretty much straight way and seemed to be settling in well but during the last week we've had lots of tears. He's missing his friends, school, swimming and rugby buddies as well as his Granny. It's his birthday this week Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
odies Posted June 14, 2014 Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 granny on skype needed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
portlaunay Posted June 14, 2014 Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 Ditto, and mine is 11 next week. After three years he reminisces and remembers only the good things. The reality is that the struggles he has here would have been the same in the UK. He loves it here but he wants all of those good bits from his UK life to be transported here to make it even better. Sorry, I don't know what the solution is, I just hope that support, safety and love will eventually make a difference. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted June 14, 2014 Author Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 granny on skype needed. It's not helping i'm afraid. I think it's just compounding the problem as he wants Granny cuddles and is avoiding speaking to his grandparents on Skype or FaceTime Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
portlaunay Posted June 14, 2014 Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 granny on skype needed. Mine always has a terrible day after we've Skype'd granny. He's an emotional kid anyway but the day after he's talked to family he is desperately sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deb Posted June 14, 2014 Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 Feel for you it hurt when they get upset. Hopefully someone else has been thought it and can help you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted June 14, 2014 Author Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 Mine always has a terrible day after we've Skype'd granny. He's an emotional kid anyway but the day after he's talked to family he is desperately sad. Ditto! He's definitely avoiding speaking to them on Skype. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
portlaunay Posted June 14, 2014 Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 Ditto! He's definitely avoiding speaking to them on Skype. We'll see you on the 29th then and hopefully they can give each other a bit of support. What does he like? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nikkiwd Posted June 14, 2014 Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 oh poor thing, can't offer much advice but once he settles with new friends and gets used to the different lifestyle he should feel better. that doesn't really help in the mean time but he just needs time to adjust x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted June 14, 2014 Author Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 We'll see you on the 29th then and hopefully they can give each other a bit of support.What does he like? He likes all sorts of things but is big on Rugby Union, swimming, computer games - mainly Minecraft, reading...books such as Percy Jackson and Skullduggery Pleasant and laughing at other peoples jokes! He's always made friends easily but is probably a bit more reserved like me and will watch rather than be centre stage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
portlaunay Posted June 14, 2014 Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 Cool, I think they'll get on like a house on fire, only I do wish mine would read. He plays guitar, loves Radiohead and live gigs but also has an obsession with public transport and wants to be an urban planner. He loves Minecraft and is also pretty quiet, follower more than leader and his emotions sometimes control him but he means well and could do with finding a really good mate. See you at the end of the month. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocolevi Posted June 14, 2014 Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 That's such a hard one Lou bit of a heart breaker, does friends and Granny have Skype do agree with Odies with that one hope he's feeling better soon x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beandownunder Posted June 14, 2014 Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 poor little man, hope he's not too grown up for mum and dad cuddles xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sideshowdeb Posted June 14, 2014 Report Share Posted June 14, 2014 So sad to read this. At a similar age to your son I became terribly homesick when we moved from Scotland to the West Country. I refused to contact anyone from home, and all my friends letter's went unanswered for quite some time. I think it's a coping mechanism and I can understand him not wanting to Skype just yet. I bet he's got plenty of fun activities on offer to distract him so I'm sure with lots of love and support he'll get through it soon enough xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted June 15, 2014 Author Report Share Posted June 15, 2014 Go-karting at Cockburn with his Dad, cousin and Uncle this morning as a special birthday treat! The sadness has gone, for now, and I can hear two 10 year olds (well 10 and nearly 10 year olds) giggling with excitement in the room next door! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sideshowdeb Posted June 15, 2014 Report Share Posted June 15, 2014 Bet that's music to your ears x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocolevi Posted June 15, 2014 Report Share Posted June 15, 2014 There's nothing better than hearing kids giggling away so pleased he seems better today x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
<Dan> Posted June 15, 2014 Report Share Posted June 15, 2014 Glad to hear he's a little happier. This is one thing that worries us more than anything else. With our 10 year old daughter and our 12 year old son who both seem to find it hard to make friends as they can be very shy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy little Vegemite Posted June 15, 2014 Report Share Posted June 15, 2014 Agree with bean, lots of mum and dad cuddles for comfort (if he's not too old for that now), kindness, and time... It's been about 2 months for us now and Elson is having his first play date around a new friends house tomorrow after school and is so excited about it, makes us all happy! Happy 10th birthday! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted June 16, 2014 Author Report Share Posted June 16, 2014 He had a great time go-karting but then had a by of a grump because his go-kart wasn't fast enough! He seems a little up and down with his moods Today I'm going to baking all day for his birthday tomorrow! He's not asked for much lol; 32+ cup cakes for school, cookies for swimming club and a big cake for his actual birthday. Thank you for all your support. Lots of cuddles delivered and more on his way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted June 19, 2014 Author Report Share Posted June 19, 2014 Well, he's had a great week but tonight he crashed. We had tears again! I'm expecting we'll have this every now and again and that, hopefully, they'll get less and less frequent!?! The weathers been pants but that'll be short lived. What it has done is motivate me to show my son what a great place Australia is and although we'll all always love Jersey we're here now and we'll be making the most of it. I don't think it helped that his cousin, who lives here one week on and the next off, went to his Mums today so he's lost his best pal for a week Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beandownunder Posted June 19, 2014 Report Share Posted June 19, 2014 Ah bless him :-/ lots of treats this weekend? for you and him.... Hope Mr Lou8670 had a great birthday xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SJT Posted June 19, 2014 Report Share Posted June 19, 2014 Big hugs to you both, it does get easier, it is just very hard to deal with when in the "moment". The joys of being a parent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou8670 Posted June 20, 2014 Author Report Share Posted June 20, 2014 Well we delved more and found out there is a boy in his class who's teachers pet, good at everything but he keeps putting my son down at every opportunity. I suspect it's because the attention has been on my boy over the last few weeks, with him being the new boy, and there's a little bit of jealousy. The school doesn't have a lot of new kids start mid year because there's waiting lists for places. I've explained to him what this boy is trying to do and that he needs to think of ways of dealing with the various situations he's described to me. Unfortunately people put other people down all the time and if he learns to deal with it now he'll have learnt a life skill. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
odies Posted June 20, 2014 Report Share Posted June 20, 2014 Lou couldn't you just ...... some kids. we are all behind him lots of love coming his way xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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