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Weve only been here 3 months but are finding it difficult to be accepted into things, like at my sons swimming club, no ozzzies really bother with us. Try talking to a few but feel like were not in the click. Are we just expecting too much, too soon? We are a nice sociable family!!!

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We have been here over 3 years and still dont have any friends, we dont have small kids so dont have the kids clubs to socialise, my adult kids are finding it hard too, they didnt go to school here so dont have any school friends etc, my daughter now has a boy friend she met at the gym, but my son only has work colleagues, most of which are a lot older than him.

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No its not you it is difficult to meet like minded people it will be easier for you with children be patient it will happen. Although from my perspective be careful what you post on here though as you will get a slamming for it. I know from past posts regarding myself and the friendship thing.

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Weve only been here 3 months but are finding it difficult to be accepted into things, like at my sons swimming club, no ozzzies really bother with us. Try talking to a few but feel like were not in the click. Are we just expecting too much, too soon? We are a nice sociable family!!!

 

Aww mwjw your old home was not far us .... we live near Castle Donington , Anyhow have you tried bigging them up - when we were there every Australian i met i was like " wow you guys are so lucky, wow to live here , wow nice sausage " etc etc ....... mainly taking the piss , but they love it ;o)

 

Good luck , and hopefully when we get there i can give it a go again .............. " whoah nice truck man "

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We have been here a year, and on arrival made a few friends through this site. Over a period of time it becomes clear who are friends, who are acquaintances' and who are just not nice. Be warned, do not be too trusting of everyone, some people do have a different agenda. We foolishly thought that like minded people (people brave enough to move here knowing no one) would be like minded in many things. Unfortunately we were burnt (badly) but it has not put me off meeting new people.

 

We have one adult child with us and rest of our children and family still in UK, but albeit difficult to have opportunities to meet new people, put yourself out there for social events. All of ours were from this forum. We also find, if we go to something independently that the natives or long established expats don't do more than say hello, and unfortunately it does make it hard sometimes.

 

I suggest you try a thread of your own, meet new people if they attend, but do not presume they all will be long term friends.

 

Goodluck.

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We are your friends mate, just have not heard from you for a while. x

We have been here over 3 years and still dont have any friends, we dont have small kids so dont have the kids clubs to socialise, my adult kids are finding it hard too, they didnt go to school here so dont have any school friends etc, my daughter now has a boy friend she met at the gym, but my son only has work colleagues, most of which are a lot older than him.

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@mwjw which swimming club have the kids joined? We're not far from you in Secret Harbour and our kids swim. It's interesting as most of our friends are swimming parents. We've been here 11 months now. I think it helped that I hung around the pool for hours on end so they didn't have any choice; they had to talk to me

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It can be tricky. I found it hard every time I moved within the UK. Just because someone is the same nationality as you doesn't mean you are going to get along. Sure you are going to have shared knowledge of your homeland but that doesn't equal compatibility. Keep plodding along, it's hard to replicate friendships you may have had for many years but it can happen in time. I now have more Australian friends than I do British ones but it took a few years to happen.

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It is hard especially if you have no children or adult ones.We have made friends my going to meet ups,also with work colleagues.

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We arrived on New Years Eve. We have really struggled. We met a lovely English family who arrived 4 weeks before us. Other than that nothing. I am so sick of saying good moring to people in the playground and sometimes they say hello and the next they ignore you.

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Think sometimes we try to hard,we have left everything familiar to us friends and family behind.We are all starting over again and it not easy.

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We've been here 4 years and have made friends that I treasure more than family. We don't really know any poms, most of our friends are Australian, Kiwi or Saffa's. It may be indicative of our perspective; we didn't like the UK and longed to move away from there and when we landed here it quickly felt like home.

I think if we lived in suburbia we would have a completely different experience, Fremantle is an extraordinary place and we've immersed ourselves in the community which has opened up all sorts of opportunities for friendship.

I think we have been very lucky, we lived next door to the most amazing people that we've grown to love and trust and their circle of friends embraced us with warmth and familiarity.

I don't know what the answer is but it may be a combination of many things and if it's not currently working, perhaps there's a need for change?

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It's a difficult one. When we came over we did have friends we knew from PIO. Now it really did help us settle Initially but it kind of stopped us from making friends naturally. Over the next few years it became apparent that apart from emigrating they weren't really our sort of people and we probably weren't theirs. I do t really do meet ups anymore before it all feels a bit forced, but I do meet my friends ( mostly Aussie, now ) and my OH's best mate and their family are Aussie so we tend to be the only Brits at their parties. Maybe a SOR meet up is in order.

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Secret harbour is a strange place, you will in time either love or hate it, we hated it. Luckily escaped 3 weeks ago. Your right in stating cliquey. Your either in it or out. We were out but didn't want to be in it either. Lived there 2 1/2 years my neighbours never spoke apart from their forced grunt of a reply to hello occasionally. Felt the whole place was false. Am now 3 weeks in living amongst what we call the real people who are happy to speak what a difference,even the dog is happier

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Aww mwjw your old home was not far us .... we live near Castle Donington , Anyhow have you tried bigging them up - when we were there every Australian i met i was like " wow you guys are so lucky, wow to live here , wow nice sausage " etc etc ....... mainly taking the piss , but they love it ;o)

 

Good luck , and hopefully when we get there i can give it a go again .............. " whoah nice truck man "

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My wife and I used to live in Donnington!!! Where did you live, might know you!!!!! Will give that a go!!!

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@mwjw which swimming club have the kids joined? We're not far from you in Secret Harbour and our kids swim. It's interesting as most of our friends are swimming parents. We've been here 11 months now. I think it helped that I hung around the pool for hours on end so they didn't have any choice; they had to talk to me

 

Hi Lou, its in Erskine, called Kirby swim. Weve tried small talk with a few, but they don't seem bothered!!...might be my aftershave!!!

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We live in Peggs Green , coleorton....... about 7 miles from Donnington....although my Grandma and uncles etc live in Donno - infact my Grandma still gets free double glazing as she lives so close to airport ( hastings street) .... i think it was a deal between airport and house owners years ago but dosent apply if you move there now.

 

Any how .... rambling on , hope it goes well mixing it with the locals ;o)

 

I hadnt even thought of " how it would be to make friends " .... but good luck :o)

 

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My wife and I used to live in Donnington!!! Where did you live, might know you!!!!! Will give that a go!!!

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It wasn't easy for us making friends too. We got three good duth friends (same nationality) - 2 through a forum and one by strange coincidence theough family. We got to know some people through work or out hobbies. But although I always had lots of fun at work with my collegues we disn't really meet outside of work.

 

 

it's definitely my weak point in emigrating and I have to work on it to make it succeed this time:o

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Hi Lou, its in Erskine, called Kirby swim. Weve tried small talk with a few, but they don't seem bothered!!...might be my aftershave!!!

 

Haha! You obviously don't smell of chlorine! That must be it :wink:

 

I've not heard of Kirby swim but then we go to lots of competitions but the country clubs don't always attend the same ones as our club which is probably why I've not heard of it. My son competed for his school recently and there were some great swimmers there and some from St Damien's in Dawesville. I did wonder which clubs the kids train with; I'm aware of Kingsway, Peel and Mandurah but not Kirby but I'm still learning! There seems to be lots in our area.

 

Keep trying on the friends front! It will come. Once I started chatting to one parent on pool side I was gradually introduced to lots more. Our club also run time trials and we always get involved which helped hugely to get to know other parents at the club. I swim too in a parents session the club runs. We have made some fantastic friends through swimming and they all live close by which is an extra bonus!

 

If you see Rockingham Stingrays at any of the Junior meets we'll probably be there! Pop over, ask around and say hello

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Just another thought! If the kids are into swimming then why not enrol them for SLSC later in the year. My kids had a ball and we found all the parents to be super friendly!

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