Guest guest5788 Posted April 5, 2012 Report Share Posted April 5, 2012 Hi, as some of you may be aware , me and my hubby are coming to WA in a few months with Carls daughter Sophie. We have been a family since Sophie was a year old but her mother is still around. Although she only sees her about once a year, and that is with great reluctance on the mums part, I still encouraged Sophie to try and be part of her life ie. cards, pressie, msgs sent throughtout the year. We are nearly alll set for travelling but I am now starting to feel very, very guilty abt taking Sophie so far away from her birth mum!!!!! Her mum is quite happy for us to go but I just cant shake this feeling...maybe it just nerves?? I realise there are a lot of families in the same situation were birth mums/dads will be left behind and was just wondering how every1 coped with that. It must be so much harder and extremely heartbreaking when the parent being left behind doesnt want the child to go....at least we're not in that situation....if we were and Sophies mum had shown any resistance to us going we defintely would not be immigrating. Just wanted some advice on how to get past this guilty feelings i have Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phil Posted April 5, 2012 Report Share Posted April 5, 2012 Don't feel guilty about that! Perhaps view it from the other angle - in 20 years would you want to feel guilty for not giving the young'un the chance of living somewhere else? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ali Posted April 5, 2012 Report Share Posted April 5, 2012 I think it shows what a thoughtful person you are, sometimes it seems that people get wrapped up in what they want, but you very much have Sophie's interests at heart. My advice is do what you've been doing, encouraging contact - sending postcards of places she's been to her mum, arranging skype contacts (if her birth mum is able). I think it's nice that you are able to think about her birth mum, it seems she's give you her blessing - do more of the same Jem - sounds like you're doing a pretty good job to me to ensure that Sophie has the most positive relationship she can with her birth mum xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest5788 Posted April 8, 2012 Report Share Posted April 8, 2012 thnx phil and ali x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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